I’m so excited to finally be able to share this
story with you! It’s a story of love, life, and loss. It’s a story of God’s
redemption and healing. It’s a story I’ll remember for the rest of my life.
It was July 27th, a typical Monday
morning, which means I was at the abortion mill. One of our team members was
gone that morning, leaving me as the counselor to go on the RV with any woman
who wanted an ultrasound. I had the training to do that back in May, but had
never had the opportunity to go on with anyone yet. I was nervous, but praying
hard that someone would come for an ultrasound, and near the end of the
morning, someone did!
She and her boyfriend came on and shared their story
with the nurse and me. It was a story we hear often; she already had four
children (all four from the same father, but a different man than her current
boyfriend), was in school, and just didn’t know how in the world she was going
to be able to have a baby right now. Besides, she shared that there were some
relationship problems between her family and her boyfriend’s family and that
her boyfriend had been physically abusive toward her.
We spent a while talking, addressing the issues that
came up and giving help, support, and answers where we could. After a while we
took the boyfriend outside to one of the men on our team so that they could
give him some counsel from a man and so that we could talk with the woman alone
with the hope that she would be a little more open without him there. She was,
and we were able to have a good conversation. She shared with us that she had
been close to God a number of years ago, but that some bad influences in her
life and led her down a wrong path and she had been making some bad decisions.
She then told us that she wanted to rededicate her life to following God right
then and there, and she did.
Before they left that morning we gave her some
maternity clothes and made a plan about how to follow up on her other needs. Among
other things, we were going to get a 3D ultrasound to determine her baby’s
gender so that we could plan a baby shower since it had been 5 years since her
last baby and she didn’t have anything.
God had other plans. One week later as we were still
discussing scheduling for the ultrasound, she texted me: she had miscarried. She sent a photo of her perfectly formed, 19 week old son. I was stunned. I
cried. In a way, he felt like my baby. I had been able to see his life
literally snatched from death only a week before, and now he was gone. Of
course, I knew that he was in a much better place and would never have to face
the trials of this earth, and I rejoiced in that. I also rejoiced that he had
been able to be loved and treasured by his mama before he died, instead of
dying a painful death at his own mama’s hands through abortion.
As I was thinking of the sadness that I felt at this
loss and texting with the mama, I thought of something that we often tell women
at the abortion mill: that God has created their child for a special purpose.
That includes this little boy, even though he never lived outside his mama’s
womb. I think that some of the purpose of his life was what God wanted to do in
his mama's heart, and in mine. I know I haven’t been the same after this
experience, and his mama hasn’t either. His short life accomplished so much for
God and when his purpose was fulfilled, God took him home.
I have been able to keep in touch with this mama,
and we were able to go out to lunch together shortly after her miscarriage. It
was a good time to connect and share. She recently asked to go out with me
again, so we plan to do that. She really wants to follow God and do what is
right, but she has very little encouragement from her friends. I’m so thankful
for the opportunity I have had to show her some love and support during a
difficult time in her life. Please continue to pray for this mama as she cares
for her other children, continues her schooling, and seeks to do what is right.
And please pray for me (and our whole team) that we could continue to reach out
and touch lives for Jesus!